What To Say On A Dating Site When You Haven''t Been On In Awhile

Acknowledge that you haven’t been in touch. Be friendly, and let them know why you’re reestablishing contact now. Ask them for the favor, but give them an easy out and make sure you offer to. If you've been dating for awhile and still haven't met their friends, that's pretty suspicious. May not mean to hide you away, but if they make up sketchy excuses when you tell them you. I just can’t wait to see you! I miss you so much, just thought you should know 24. Hope your day is going well, can’t wait to see you tonight! Hey babe, been thinking about you a lot. I’d love to see you tonight if you’re not busy. I heard.our. song and it made me think of you 28. It’s been a while.

Did you move away from a childhood bestie? Lose track of a favorite coworker? Or forget to text your college roommate back, and now it’s been ten years? Whatever the case, there may come a time when you want to reach out to someone from your past and catch up. Whether the goal is exchanging a few quick stories, or rekindling the entire friendship, the first step is sending an opening text.

But what on earth do you say to someone after a long period of not talking to them? According to licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Holly Schiff, it’s not uncommon to feel awkward or at a loss for words when texting someone you haven’t talked to in a while. “We naturally drift away from others over time,” Schiff says, so you might worry that they’ve changed, that they won’t want to talk, or that they’re mad at you for ghosting them.

It’s nerve-racking, but therapist Jennifer Vandegriff, LCSW says you shouldn’t let awkwardness, pride, nerves, or even guilt stop you from texting an old friend and seeing what’s up. Chances are they’ll be happy to hear from you, or at the very least will be flattered that you reached out. If you miss someone who used to be in your life, then scan through these 30 sample texts to send to old friends, choose the one that feels right, and fire that thing off.

A simple, straightforward text is always good choice. Because hey, “if you are missing someone and want to reconnect, you can just be honest and say it,” psychologist Dr. Rebecca Leslie tells Bustle. No need for formal greetings, fancy apologies, or verbose explanations.

Quick disclaimer: When reaching out to folks from the past, keep your expectations neutral. You don't know how their life has changed or if they'll even want to talk, especially if you had an argument and ended things on a weird note.

But don't let that stop you from trying. If you'd like to rekindle a friendship, counselor Candice Conroy, MA, LMHC suggests being clear about your desire to catch up. Hopefully it'll open the door to more texts, a phone call, or maybe even a coffee date.

To make your text feel more personal — and purposeful — look for a specific reason to reach out, says Sulonda Smith, LMFT, CLC, a licensed marriage family therapist and certified life coach. The receiver will enjoy the fact you remembered something specific about them (like their undying love for lime Doritos).

Whether it was an all-nighter in college, a fun party, or a concert you went to in 2017, go ahead and reminisce via text in vivid, hilarious detail. 'Some humor or a reminder of shared interests or memories foster connection,' therapist Lisa Andresen, ASW tells Bustle. 'This also makes for an easy conversation starter before you start catching up.'

If you recommended a movie, book, or album to them, go ahead and follow up to see if they liked it. It could spark a fun conversation!

Life coach Chelsea Austin recommends sending this text if you forgot to reply. If they write back, awesome! If not, that’s OK, too. “A text is a great way to reach out because it’s like dipping your toe in the pool,” she says. “If they don’t answer it feels less personal and if they do you can gauge where to go from there.”

“I love this one because it can be completely serious or cute and tongue-in-cheek, depending on where you fall on the horoscope-believability scale,” says life coach Jenna Watson. Either way, it’s an intriguing text to send when you want to reach out to someone you haven’t talked to in a while. Find the one that feels right to you, and hit send!

Experts:

Jennifer Vandegriff, LCSW, therapist

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Lisha Davidovits, ACC, CPCC, CPQC , success coach

Dr. Rebecca Leslie, licensed psychologist

Nicole Arzt, LMFT, licensed marriage and family therapist

Jennifer Vandegriff, LCSW, therapist

Candice Conroy, MA, LMHC, licensed mental health counselor

Jennifer L. FitzPatrick, MSW, LCSW-C, CSP, certified speaking professional

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Dr. Kimberly M. Martin, clinical psychologist

Sulonda Smith, LMFT, CLC, licensed marriage family therapist and certified life coach

Keith J. Myers, PhD, LPC, NCC, ACS, licensed professional counselor

Dr. Markesha Miller, licensed psychotherapist

Lisa Andresen, ASW, therapist

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Christine Scott-Hudson, MA, MFT, ATR, licensed marriage and family therapist

Dorlee Michaeli, MBA, LCSW, licensed clinical social worker

Dr. Carla Marie Manly, clinical psychologist

Chelsea Austin, life coach

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Tiffany Roe, MA, CMHC, therapist

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Jenna Watson, life coach